1. You’re not responsible for other people.
A little saying that helps me remember this is, “You’re responsible to others, not for them.” As a parent, for example, it can be difficult to remember this truth. You’re responsible to care for your children to the best of your ability, guide them, and provide for them. But you’re not responsible for their emotions or the decisions they make. Do you want to lovingly teach and guide them? Of course! But ultimately they are an individual and who they are and what they do is not a direct reflection of you.
2. Someone else’s opinion of you does not reflect who you are.
People pleasers tend to build their worth off of others opinions of them. Even at our best, we won’t please or be liked by everyone we meet. It is exhausting trying to be who we think everyone else wants us to be. And honestly, we usually get so caught up in being who we think we need to be that we lose sight of who God actually created us to be. Without an identity rooted in Christ, someone’s negative opinion can leave you feeling lost, wounded and insecure.
3. You can’t earn love from others.
I’ve meet many moms who feel the need to do it all. Have the flawless body, spotless home, be involved in volunteer work, be a great chef, be the perfect wife/mother, and work full time. This is simply impossible! What you can or cannot accomplish in life does not reflect whether you are or are not worth loving. God created as a lovable human being just because you exist. Doing the “right thing” or accomplishing a certain amount does not earn you love or acceptance from others.
I'm a Christian counselor who loves to help people get to the root of their current problems so they can live from a place of authenticity and freedom!